Finding a way to stay connected and communicate consciously during times of conflict poses a significant challenge. With heightened emotions, people have trouble with focus and understanding. We tend to listen to reply, not to understand. The couple’s dialogue creates a safe framework for communication with clearly defined roles that keep people in connection as they share perspectives.
The Couple’s Dialogue, formally known as the Imago Dialogue, provides a structured approach to engaging in mindful communication during times of conflict. There are two roles: the sender and the receiver. Each role receives specific guidelines for how to communicate to ensure the most safety and chance of successful resolution.
In short, because the dialogue helps each person express themselves consciously and helps the receiver truly listen to understand, not reply.
The purpose of the dialogue is to help each person share their perspective about the topic. It’s believed such perspective taking can strengthen connection even amidst disagreements. From this connected, safe place you can move to the next step: finding solutions that honor all person’s needs. A middle path to resolution that starts with each person feeling seen, soothed, safe, and secure. Imagine that: during conflict? Yes, it’s possible with a communication framework such as this.
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