Seeing the Child Behind the Behavior

When children have challenging behavior, it is easy to get stuck trying to “stop” the behavior. Unfortunately, they often ends up with a lot of pain and suffering for either the adult, the child, or both.

When we begin to understand how basic needs and function of behavior drive the brain to react or respond, our approach toward children with challenging behavior becomes more inclusive, attuned and effective!

With some brain basics, you can be on your way to a more safe, satisfying and connected relationship with the child or children in your life.

Find out more with Laura in Pre-K Teach and Play’s Podcast 27: Seeing the Child Behind the Behavior

To start working smarter, not harder, with children make sure you read more about the brain reasons for behavior in this article from Laura: Seeing the Child Behind the Behavior.

Mindfulness in the Classroom

Mindfulness strategies are a part of any quality early childhood education program; they just are not traditionally labeled as such. For example, teachers are employing mindfulness strategies when they describe children’s actions aloud, ask open-ended questions, and acknowledge children’s efforts to engage in their community in positive ways.

When implemented with fidelity, common quality teaching practices such as these encourage mindfulness as a habit of mind that develops and strengthens the brain’s social, emotional, and cognitive skills.

Mindfulness strategies support brain development in several ways:

  1. Promotes integration – differentiation and linkage: development of all parts of the brain as well as building the connections among areas within the brain. When our brains are differentiated, and linked, they are believed to be integrated, a state which supports physical and mental well-being.
  2. Supports executive function skills: the ability to plan, initiate, organize and carry out tasks while regulating emotions, resolving conflicts and shifting gears when necessary. Focal attention is the key driver to learning and is integral to developing these “school readiness” skills.
  3. Allows for intrapersonal attunement: tuning into one’s own interior landscape, including thoughts, feelings, and sensations. Noticing “what’s inside.”
  4. Allows for interpersonal attunement: being able to tune into the mental and physical state of another. Noticing “what’s there.”
  5. Supports the development of the prefrontal cortex: most notably, attuned communication, fear modulation, physical regulation, emotional regulation, response flexibility, insight, empathy, intuition, morality.

But What Is Mindfulness?

Mindfulness may be understood as having two components: the quality of focal attention, and the state of mind of openness and receptivity to what is there. Perhaps more specifically, a way I like to define mindfulness is paying attention on purpose with non-judgment, compassion, and loving-kindness.

Focal attention is a key component of mindfulness as it promotes learning or affecting change of any kind. When focal attention is engaged, the brain generates the growth of new cells, or neurons, and the connections between those neurons are strengthened. Focal attention is believed to be foundational for the development of the five brain benefits listed above.

Openness and receptivity are also key components of mindfulness. When the mind is in an open, receptive state, the brain is more integrated, thus promoting health, well-being and the spaciousness that cultivates the strengthening of the mind and brain.

Both components of mindfulness are unpacked here, beginning with focal attention strategies, which can be incorporated across daily activities and common preschool routines.

With the help of focal attention, each of these strategies has the potential to lead to one or more of the five brain benefits listed previously. And while the quality of attention is an important component of mindfulness, so too is the state of mind with which you attend.

The practice of engaging focal attention is coupled with the intention to notice with an open, receptive state of mind that includes non-judgment, compassion, and loving-kindness. And again, such practices are easily woven into the fabric of a quality early childhood program.

Open, Receptive State of Mind StrategyExampleBrain Benefit
Positive, descriptive acknowledgment (PDA) and PDA Plus: using specific and descriptive language to describe the positive behavior children display and at times, connecting it to a feeling state, outcome, or character trait.Teacher: Andre and Denae, you are sharing the crayons!

Or

Teacher: Andre and Denae, you are sharing the crayons, you look happy to be sharing!

Or

Teacher: Andre and Denae, you are sharing the crayons, now you can both color!

Or

Teacher: Andre and Denae, you are sharing the crayons, you are being friendly with each other.

With PDA and PDA Plus (instead of praise), children receive a description of the positive action they are doing and possibly its impact or outcome. This acknowledgment begins to strengthen the children’s internal narrative to include their strengths. A narrative that includes strengths, may help children remain open and receptive when they face challenges instead of dropping into judgment and criticism.

When teachers flood the environment with PDA and PDA Plus, children are more likely to return to an open, receptive state of mind throughout the day.

Emotional Literacy: identifying, understanding, and expressing emotions.

 

Choose from a variety of strategies such as reading books about feelings, referencing feeling charts, asking children how they feel, scaffolding their feelings, and modeling feelings.

Teacher: Salina, you are jumping as you laugh with your friend! How do you feel?

Or

Teacher: Looks like you might be angry right now. I see your hands are clenched and your breathing is heavy.

Or

Teacher: Looks like you might be having a strong emotion, do you want to….draw me your feelings so I know what you are feeling; switch your emotion on the feelings chart; have the puppets talk about your feelings with you; tell me what your body feels like right now; do a body scan with me so we can see what your body is telling you about your feelings?

Using the emotional literacy strategy sends the message that all emotions are acceptable. This helps the mind send signals to the brain that it is safe and the process of regulating a strong emotion may begin.

The brain strives to make sense of information, so regardless of the strength of the emotion the strategy of emotional literacy helps the brain call upon the left hemisphere to help name what the right hemisphere is experiencing. The two parts of the brain work together to integrate the emotion, what’s often referred to as, “Name it to tame it”, where emotional literacy and emotional regulation are working together.

Emotional Regulation: using the mind to bring the brain into a more balanced state.

As with emotional literacy, a variety of emotional regulation strategies may be offered for children based on individual need, feeling state, and children’s abilities or developmental levels. For example, opportunities to: smell a flower/blow out the candle, squeeze a stress ball, do a few wall push-ups, walk like a bear or other animal, receive deep or light pressure on various body parts, name it to tame it, count breaths, allow glitter to settle, draw, listen to music, hug a stuffed animal or a teacher.

Regardless of strategy, a key component of emotional regulation is the teacher’s validation of the child’s feeling state both through verbal and nonverbal actions.

Teacher: So, you are feeling really angry because the block area is full right now. That makes sense. I can see why you feel angry about that.

Or

Teacher: You are feeling angry about the block area being full. It’s so hard to wait. It seems like anger is making your body feel uncomfortable right now.  I wonder what might help anger relax its grip on you a little?

Or

Teacher: You are feeling angry because the block area is full? Ahhh…and your stomach feels heavy? So sorry. I have the relaxation kit right here. What strategy might help your tummy soften a bit?

Emotional regulation for children includes co-regulation with an attuned other. Meaning, engaging in regulation with an unhurried, calm, receptive, and aware adult.

Co-regulating with an attuned other allows children’s brains to shift from an emotionally reactive “downstairs brain” to an open, receptive “upstairs brain”, and to shift the brain to a state of integration. choose.

Conflict resolution: solving problems and resolving conflicts in a systematic way that includes all children being involved in a non-punitive discussion and resolution process.When possible, each child involved in the conflict contributes his or her perspective at each step with the assistance of the teacher.

· Step one: What happened? How does EACH child feel?

·  Step two: What can we do? (discuss potential solutions, possibly look through visuals of solutions)

·  Step three: Pick one and give it a try!

·  Step four: Teacher follows up children.

Resolving conflicts using a step-by-step framework helps children remain open and receptive to working with others to resolve challenges, rather than seeking out retribution.

When children describe their view of what happened, connect that to how they feel, and then seek a solution, they are using the mind to access all parts of the brain to collaborate with others.

Inherent in this process is non-judgment, compassion for self and others, and loving-kindness.

Now that you understand both components of mindfulness, focal attention and an open, receptive state of mind, can you see how they may be (and likely are) incorporated across daily activities and common preschool routines?

A few last reminders:

  • It’s important to note that the foundation of practicing mindfulness strategies is the teacher’s commitment to attuned communication and relationships with children. Click here to learn more about attuned communication. Attuned communication maximizes the potential for healthy brain and mind development by creating environments where children feel safe, satisfied, and seen (i.e., connected).
  • All of the mindfulness strategies offered here must be adapted to meet the needs, abilities, and/or developmental levels of the children. The key is for teachers to use discernment to develop a culturally and developmentally appropriate approach for all children to cultivate the components of mindfulness at their own pace.

Hear more about this important topic with Laura on Pre-K Teach and Play’s podcast: Mindfulness in the Classroom

For additional strategies to promote mindfulness in your classroom, please check out part two of this series, “Moving Beyond Traditional Mindfulness Practices in the Early Childhood Classroom.”

Teaching with the Brain in Mind

What do circle time, science, mindfulness, and self-reflection have in common?

Find out in Pre-K Teach and Play’s Podcast 21: Teaching with the Brain in Mind with Laura Fish

Six main concepts are explored in this episode:

  1. How to get teachers/colleagues to buy in to a change in practice (“mindset before method”)
  2. Why focal attention, novelty, repetition, and emotional arousal are the necessary ingredients for optimal learning
  3. How to teach from a brain perspective so we strengthen the part of the brain the child will need to use “next”
  4. Why interpersonal neurobiology helps us to make the connection among brain, mind, and relationships
  5. How to use mindfulness in Preschool contexts
  6. Why school readiness does not mean replicating Kindergarten in Preschool so children are “ready” for school

For the free download about tips for self-reflection, please subscribe to my blog below to the right. Request your download, and I’ll be happy to send it to you!

Promoting social and emotional development in kids

Most teachers today are very interested in learning about how to prevent challenging behavior by promoting social and emotional skills in children. Instead of focusing on intervening after the challenges occur, teachers are really working hard to learn ways to prevent such behavior!

But where to start? Promoting the social and emotional skills children need begins with updating some of our current practices. One powerful yet simple change: shifting from Praise to Positive, Descriptive Acknowledgement. To learn about this important practice, it’s benefits, and why it is more effective than Praise, check out this article I co-wrote about using Positive, Descriptive, Acknowledgment !

It’s written for teachers, but applies to parents as well.

Circle Time in the 21st Century

I’ve been coaching an amazing preschool teacher named Ana since September, teaching her breathing techniques to practice with the children as part of the myriad strategies we are implementing to prime their brains for learning.  

Two days ago she told me the kids wanted to learn more techniques, so I taught her a yoga breathing practice called “alternate nostril breathing” that balances the left and right hemispheres of the brain. I showed her a way to adapt it with the kids because the hand movements require fine motor dexterity beyond most preschoolers abilities.

When I came to observe her classroom just two days later I captured this video of her leading 19 children through the breathing practices.  Check out this maverick teacher and the children’s spontaneous sharing at the end about the impact of the breathing exercises #bestuseofCircleTimeever

Turn on Closed captions for better audio!!

To learn more about circle time in the 21st Century listen to Laura discuss Teaching with the Brain in Mind in this podcast!

Attuned Interactions and Contingent Communication

If you would like to learn about an approach for connecting with children to prevent challenging behavior and promote healthy development, please listen to me discuss Attunement and Contingent Communication on the Early Childhood Research Podcast, Episode 19:

Attunement is believed to be one of the 9 functions of the pre-frontal cortex, a highly integrative area of the brain necessary for healthy social and emotional development as well as cognitive functioning. Find out more about this important topic by listening to the podcast.

Thank you so much to Liz Hah for asking me to join her on the program. Please visit her website for more wonderful podcasts as well as free downloads to support young children’s healthy development: http://www.lizs-early-learning-spot.com/

You can also find a written transcript of this podcast there along with some cool graphics Liz designed.

Please let me know what you think of the episode as well as any questions you might have about how I might help you learn the strategies discussed in the interview.

Check back soon for more blog posts regarding ways to promote social and emotional development in children!